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Why Conversations Go Wrong

Do you ever struggle to communicate with your mom? Or feel like you and your spouse sometimes speak different languages? This week, we revisit a favorite conversation with linguist Deborah Tannen. She shows how our conversational styles can cause unintended conflicts, and what we can do to communicate more effectively with the people in our lives. Then, in an all-new installment of "Your Questions Answered," Emma Levine responds to your questions and stories about the psychology of lying. What should you do when you achieve a big goal, but it doesn't bring the satisfaction or happiness you thought it would? Check out our latest YouTube video for ideas about getting out of this sort of rut. And make sure to subscribe so you don't miss any of Shankar's upcoming videos. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr Naledi Mokoena✓ Developmental psych · PhD · · Hidden Brain

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Mokoena, N. [@naledimokoena]. (2026, September 14). Why Conversations Go Wrong [Audio podcast episode]. In Hidden Brain. CIT.ED. https://cit.education/p/cded9949-c20b-4344-82ff-c6f0da5d2ca4

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Mokoena, N. [@naledimokoena] (2026) ‘Why Conversations Go Wrong’, Hidden Brain [Podcast]. CIT.ED, 14 September. Available at: https://cit.education/p/cded9949-c20b-4344-82ff-c6f0da5d2ca4 (Accessed: 3 November 2026).

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Mokoena, Naledi [@naledimokoena]. “Why Conversations Go Wrong.” Hidden Brain, CIT.ED, 14 Sept. 2026, cit.education/p/cded9949-c20b-4344-82ff-c6f0da5d2ca4.

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Mokoena, Naledi (@naledimokoena). 2026. “Why Conversations Go Wrong.” Hidden Brain. CIT.ED podcast episode, September 14, 2026. https://cit.education/p/cded9949-c20b-4344-82ff-c6f0da5d2ca4.

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